The Quran was revealed by Allah as a guidance to mankind. There are many verses in the Quran in regards to good Manners and the way we should treat others.
Below are a selection of instructions sent to us by Allah:
- By no means lie
“Such are the regulations of hajj. To respect the prohibitions of God is a virtuous deed in the sight of one’s Lord. Consuming the flesh of certain animals is made lawful for you. Stay away from wickedness, idols, and false words.” (22:30)
2. By no means spy on anybody
“O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” (49:12)
3. Do not gloat
۞إِنَّ قَٰرُونَ كَانَ مِن قَوۡمِ مُوسَىٰ فَبَغَىٰ عَلَيۡهِمۡۖ وَءَاتَيۡنَٰهُ مِنَ ٱلۡكُنُوزِ مَآ إِنَّ مَفَاتِحَهُۥ لَتَنُوٓأُ بِٱلۡعُصۡبَةِ أُوْلِي ٱلۡقُوَّةِ إِذۡ قَالَ لَهُۥ قَوۡمُهُۥ لَا تَفۡرَحۡۖ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ ٱلۡفَرِحِينَ
Qarun was one of Moses’ people, but he oppressed them. We had given him such treasures that even their keys would have weighed down a whole company of strong men. His people said to him, ‘Do not gloat, for God does not like people who gloat. (28:76)
4. Don’t insult anybody
يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ لَا يَسۡخَرۡ قَوۡمٞ مِّن قَوۡمٍ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَكُونُواْ خَيۡرٗا مِّنۡهُمۡ وَلَا نِسَآءٞ مِّن نِّسَآءٍ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَكُنَّ خَيۡرٗا مِّنۡهُنَّۖ وَلَا تَلۡمِزُوٓاْ أَنفُسَكُمۡ وَلَا تَنَابَزُواْ بِٱلۡأَلۡقَٰبِۖ بِئۡسَ ٱلِٱسۡمُ ٱلۡفُسُوقُ بَعۡدَ ٱلۡإِيمَٰنِۚ وَمَن لَّمۡ يَتُبۡ فَأُوْلَٰٓئِكَ هُمُ ٱلظَّٰلِمُونَ
Believers, no one group of men should jeer at another, who may after all be better than them; no one group of women should jeer at another, who may after all be better than them; do not speak ill of one another; do not use offensive nicknames for one another. How bad it is to be called a mischief-maker after accepting faith! Those who do not repent of this behaviour are evildoers. (49:11)
5. Don’t waste
وَءَاتِ ذَا ٱلۡقُرۡبَىٰ حَقَّهُۥ وَٱلۡمِسۡكِينَ وَٱبۡنَ ٱلسَّبِيلِ وَلَا تُبَذِّرۡ تَبۡذِيرًا
Give relatives their due, and the needy, and travellers- do not squander your wealth wastefully: (17:26)
6. Feed the needy
وَٱلۡبُدۡنَ جَعَلۡنَٰهَا لَكُم مِّن شَعَٰٓئِرِ ٱللَّهِ لَكُمۡ فِيهَا خَيۡرٞۖ فَٱذۡكُرُواْ ٱسۡمَ ٱللَّهِ عَلَيۡهَا صَوَآفَّۖ فَإِذَا وَجَبَتۡ جُنُوبُهَا فَكُلُواْ مِنۡهَا وَأَطۡعِمُواْ ٱلۡقَانِعَ وَٱلۡمُعۡتَرَّۚ كَذَٰلِكَ سَخَّرۡنَٰهَا لَكُمۡ لَعَلَّكُمۡ تَشۡكُرُونَ
We have made camels part of God’s sacred rites for you. There is much good in them for you, so invoke God’s name over them as they are lined up for sacrifice, then, when they have fallen down dead, feed yourselves and those who do not ask, as well as those who do. We have subjected them to you in this way so that you may be thankful. (22:36)
7. Don’t backbite
يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ ٱجۡتَنِبُواْ كَثِيرٗا مِّنَ ٱلظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعۡضَ ٱلظَّنِّ إِثۡمٞۖ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُواْ وَلَا يَغۡتَب بَّعۡضُكُم بَعۡضًاۚ أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمۡ أَن يَأۡكُلَ لَحۡمَ أَخِيهِ مَيۡتٗا فَكَرِهۡتُمُوهُۚ وَٱتَّقُواْ ٱللَّهَۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ تَوَّابٞ رَّحِيمٞ
Believers, avoid making too many assumptions- some assumptions are sinful- and do not spy on one another or speak ill of people behind their backs: would any of you like to eat the flesh of your dead brother? No, you would hate it. So be mindful of God: God is ever relenting, most merciful. (49:12)
8. Maintain your oaths
لَا يُؤَاخِذُكُمُ ٱللَّهُ بِٱللَّغۡوِ فِيٓ أَيۡمَٰنِكُمۡ وَلَٰكِن يُؤَاخِذُكُم بِمَا عَقَّدتُّمُ ٱلۡأَيۡمَٰنَۖ فَكَفَّٰرَتُهُۥٓ إِطۡعَامُ عَشَرَةِ مَسَٰكِينَ مِنۡ أَوۡسَطِ مَا تُطۡعِمُونَ أَهۡلِيكُمۡ أَوۡ كِسۡوَتُهُمۡ أَوۡ تَحۡرِيرُ رَقَبَةٖۖ فَمَن لَّمۡ يَجِدۡ فَصِيَامُ ثَلَٰثَةِ أَيَّامٖۚ ذَٰلِكَ كَفَّٰرَةُ أَيۡمَٰنِكُمۡ إِذَا حَلَفۡتُمۡۚ وَٱحۡفَظُوٓاْ أَيۡمَٰنَكُمۡۚ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ ٱللَّهُ لَكُمۡ ءَايَٰتِهِۦ لَعَلَّكُمۡ تَشۡكُرُونَ
God does not take you [to task] for what is thoughtless in your oaths, only for your binding oaths: the atonement for breaking an oath is to feed ten poor people with food equivalent to what you would normally give your own families, or to clothe them, or to set free a slave- if a person cannot find the means, he should fast for three days. This is the atonement for breaking your oaths- keep your oaths. In this way God makes clear His revelations to you, so that you may be thankful. (5:89)
Al-Ma’idah, Ayah 89
9. By no means take bribes
فَلَمَّا جَآءَ سُلَيۡمَٰنَ قَالَ أَتُمِدُّونَنِ بِمَالٖ فَمَآ ءَاتَىٰنِۦَ ٱللَّهُ خَيۡرٞ مِّمَّآ ءَاتَىٰكُمۚ بَلۡ أَنتُم بِهَدِيَّتِكُمۡ تَفۡرَحُونَ
When her envoy came to Solomon, Solomon said, ‘What! Are you offering me wealth? What God has given me is better than what He has given you, though you rejoice in this gift of yours. (27:36)
An-Naml, Ayah 36
10. Fulfill your contracts
إِلَّا ٱلَّذِينَ عَٰهَدتُّم مِّنَ ٱلۡمُشۡرِكِينَ ثُمَّ لَمۡ يَنقُصُوكُمۡ شَيۡـٔٗا وَلَمۡ يُظَٰهِرُواْ عَلَيۡكُمۡ أَحَدٗا فَأَتِمُّوٓاْ إِلَيۡهِمۡ عَهۡدَهُمۡ إِلَىٰ مُدَّتِهِمۡۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُتَّقِينَ
As for those who have honoured the treaty you made with them and who have not supported anyone against you: fulfil your agreement with them to the end of their term. God loves those who are mindful of Him. (9:4)
At-Tawbah, Ayah 4
11. Contain your anger
ٱلَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ فِي ٱلسَّرَّآءِ وَٱلضَّرَّآءِ وَٱلۡكَٰظِمِينَ ٱلۡغَيۡظَ وَٱلۡعَافِينَ عَنِ ٱلنَّاسِۗ وَٱللَّهُ يُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُحۡسِنِينَ
who give, both in prosperity and adversity, who restrain their anger and pardon people- God loves those who do good. (3:134)
Al Imran, Ayah 134
12. Don’t gossip
إِذۡ تَلَقَّوۡنَهُۥ بِأَلۡسِنَتِكُمۡ وَتَقُولُونَ بِأَفۡوَاهِكُم مَّا لَيۡسَ لَكُم بِهِۦ عِلۡمٞ وَتَحۡسَبُونَهُۥ هَيِّنٗا وَهُوَ عِندَ ٱللَّهِ عَظِيمٞ
When you took it up with your tongues, and spoke with your mouths things you did not know [to be true], you thought it was trivial but to God it was very serious. (24:15)
An-Nur, Ayah 15
13. Be Positive about others
لَّوۡلَآ إِذۡ سَمِعۡتُمُوهُ ظَنَّ ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنُونَ وَٱلۡمُؤۡمِنَٰتُ بِأَنفُسِهِمۡ خَيۡرٗا وَقَالُواْ هَٰذَآ إِفۡكٞ مُّبِينٞ
When you heard the lie, why did believing men and women not think well of their own people and declare, ‘This is obviously a lie’? (24:12)
An-Nur, Ayah 12
14. Treat Guests well – (Quran 51.24-27)
هَلۡ أَتَىٰكَ حَدِيثُ ضَيۡفِ إِبۡرَٰهِيمَ ٱلۡمُكۡرَمِينَ
[Muhammad], have you heard the story of the honoured guests of Abraham?
51:24
Adh-Dhariyat, Ayah 24
إِذۡ دَخَلُواْ عَلَيۡهِ فَقَالُواْ سَلَٰمٗاۖ قَالَ سَلَٰمٞ قَوۡمٞ مُّنكَرُونَ
They went in to see him and said, ‘Peace.’ ‘Peace,’ he said, [adding to himself] ‘These people are strangers.’
51:25
Adh-Dhariyat, Ayah 25
فَرَاغَ إِلَىٰٓ أَهۡلِهِۦ فَجَآءَ بِعِجۡلٖ سَمِينٖ
He turned quickly to his household, brought out a fat calf,
51:26
Adh-Dhariyat, Ayah 26
فَقَرَّبَهُۥٓ إِلَيۡهِمۡ قَالَ أَلَا تَأۡكُلُونَ
and placed it before them. ‘Will you not eat?’ he said,
51:27
Adh-Dhariyat, Ayah 27
15. Don’t harm believers
وَٱلَّذِينَ يُؤۡذُونَ ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَ وَٱلۡمُؤۡمِنَٰتِ بِغَيۡرِ مَا ٱكۡتَسَبُواْ فَقَدِ ٱحۡتَمَلُواْ بُهۡتَٰنٗا وَإِثۡمٗا مُّبِينٗا
and those who undeservedly insult believing men and women will bear the guilt of slander and flagrant sin. (33:58)
Al-Ahzab, Ayah 58
16. Respect your parents
۞وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعۡبُدُوٓاْ إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِٱلۡوَٰلِدَيۡنِ إِحۡسَٰنًاۚ إِمَّا يَبۡلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ ٱلۡكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوۡ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفّٖ وَلَا تَنۡهَرۡهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوۡلٗا كَرِيمٗا
Your Lord has commanded that you should worship none but Him, and that you be kind to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age with you, say no word that shows impatience with them, and do not be harsh with them, but speak to them respectfully. (17:23)
Al-Isra’, Ayah 23
17. Keep away from ill speech – (Quran 23.3)
18. Try not to ridicule others – (Quran 49.11)
19. Walk in a modest manner – (Quran 25.63)
20. Reply to evil with good – (Quran 41.34)
21. Don’t give false impressions – (Quran 61.2)
22. Maintain your promises – (Quran 23.8)
23. Don’t insult others’ false gods – (Quran 6.108)
24. 25. Don’t fraud people in trade – (Quran 6.152)
26. Don’t take things without authority – (Quran 3.162)
27. Don’t ask pointless questions – (Quran 5.101)
28. Don’t be stingy nor wasteful – (Quran 25.67)
29. Don’t call others bad names or nicknames – (Quran 49.11)
30. Don’t declare yourselves to be pure – (Quran 53.32)
31. Converse appropriately, even to the ignorant – (Quran 25.63)
32. Don’t ask for reimbursement (Financial or anything) for favours – (Quran 76.9)
33. Create space for others at gatherings – (Quran 58.11)
34. If enemy desires peace, settle for it – (Quran 8.61)
35. Return a greeting in good manner – (Quran 4.86)
36. Don’t remind people of your favours – (Quran 2.264)
37. Make peace between conflicting poeple – (Quran 49.9)
38. Speak reasonably and in a low tone – (Quran 31.19)
39. Don’t let hatred trigger you to be unjust – (Quran 6.108)
40. Don’t ask too many favours from others – (Quran 2.273)
41. Greet folks when coming into their house – (Quran 24.27)
42. Be sincere, to everyone – (Quran 4.135)
43. Converse gently, even to the leaders of disbelievers – (Quran 20.44)
44. Don’t criticise small contributions of others – (Quran 9.79)
45. Attempt to make peace between husband and wife – (Quran 4.128)
46. Corruption and Oppression is worse SIN than killing – (Quran 2.217)
47. Educate others in a clever and good method – (Quran 16.125)
48. Don’t accuse others of immorality without evidence – (Quran 24.4)
49. Consider wives of the Prophet like your Mother – (Quran 33.6)
50. Don’t elevate your voice above that of Prophet’s voice – (Quran 49.2)
51. Don’t call somebody a disbeliever (Kaafir) without clarity – (Quran 4.94)
52. Seek permission before coming into anybody’s room – (Quran 24.59)
53. Knowing your enemies can presumably turn out to be your close friends – (Quran 41.34)
54. Don’t wrongly eat up the wealth of the vulnerable – (Quran 4.29)
55. Don’t turn your cheek away from conceited folks – (Quran 31.18)
56. Forgive others, as you want Allah to forgive you – (Quran 24.22)
57. Seek Prophets’ permission when leaving his gathering – (Quran 24.62)
58. Don’t maintain secret meetings for sin, rather achieve this for devotion – (Quran 58.9)
59. Don’t order others to do good whereas forgetting it your self – (Quran 2.44)
60. Be patience with your mentor and comply with his/her directions – (Quran 18.67-69)
61. Don’t frown, turn away or neglect those that come in the direction of you – (Quran 80. 10)
62. If not in a position to assist a poor individual, at least utter good words – (Quran 17.28)
63. Be lenient to these below you, and seek the advice of them in points – (Quran 3.159)
64. Confirm data from a genuine source before acting upon it – (Quran 49.6)
65. Those that can ought to proceed to spend on the less fortunate – (Quran 24.22)
66. Don’t sit with those that mock religions till they change the topic – (Quran 4.140)
67. Say it’s not acceptable to speak of slander when it’s talked about to you – (Quran 24.16)
68. Divorce in a humble manner as an alternative of preserving and hurting your spouse – (Quran 2.231)
69. Punish in a balanced manner to the way you had been hurt or be patient – (Quran 16.126)
70. The distinction in language and colour are indicators of Allah, it doesn’t imply any form of superiority – (Quran 49.13)
71. Do not take any lady by power or force, do not take back marriage gift without an authentic reason and live with them in kindness – (Quran 4.19)
